Today’s blog post was going to be one of motivational purity, but I guess the blog angels had something else in mind. While watching Good Morning America on Monday, I saw the exclusive interview with Carlos Allen. As few know, Carlos Allen was the second stream of “alleged” party crashers at November’s White House State Dinner. Preceding the discovery of Allen’s crash was the uproar of the uninvited presence of Washington socialites Tareq and Michaele Salahi.
Watch the exclusive Good Morning America interview
Monday’s interview with Robin Roberts was painful to watch. I found it impossible to hold judgment due to the transparent assurance that Carlos Allen was lying. Although my opinion has never sealed a peace treaty, I noted a sea of red flags which indicated Carlos Allen was an imperfect liar.
Repetitive word usage – During the Good Morning America interview, Allen overused the words “actual” and “actually” a record 24 times.
Allen’s excerpt.
Well, that’s the only thing I received in the actual mail so that’s what I used as the actual information that I took to the actual White House to get in as far as being an actual invitee to the actual White House.”
Huh? What was that again? Carlos, were you trying to make a point or confuse me? Amazingly, this was a real excerpt from the Robin Roberts interview. I don’t know if Allen was intentionally leading me down a path of mumbo-jumbo, but it worked.
Here’s more…..
The only thing that I can say is I received an actual invite in the mail and I went to the White House to actually be an actual guest at the actual State Dinner ….they actually checked me.
The gross misuse of a non-impacting word such as “actual” indicated that Allen was nervous when explaining his side of the story. His verbal butterflies were a sign that he was having a difficult time controlling his dialogue. He was not using ideas that flowed down the stream of sense. I did not understand what he was really trying to say. I think he “actually” believed that this “actual” overdose would work. Wrong!
Selective memory – When an individual has a fuzzy memory about the imperative details of a situation then gains a crystal clear recollection minutes later, then they might not be telling a strong truth.
Allen excerpt.
I believed I walked to the bar.
Seconds later….
When I walked over to the bar, I looked around to see if I recognized anyone I knew.
Wow. Instant memory – just add water. Initially Allen was shaky in his details and as his confidence grew, so did his recollection. “I believed I walked to the bar” became “I KNOW that I went to that bar for SURE!” You could see the wheels in his brain cycling like a 10 speed. An African proverb suggests “No one tests the depth of a river with both feet.” This signifies the strategy of a person who is not in control of the truth. They will create their truth and slowly try to sell it. I saw Allen’s retroactive confidence transform from nothing to something within seconds. What Allen was really doing was becoming more comfortable dispensing the lie to himself. Once he believed it then he extended the boundaries of his truth to others.
Over-talk, Double-talk – During Allen’s interview I noticed that while his faux confidence was building so was his necessity to talk over Robin Roberts. Allen was in no way trying to be disrespectful, but in his knee-jerk response he was attempting to prevent his chain of lies from being interrupted. When the chain is broken the lies will inevitably get sidetracked. It takes awhile for the person who is lying to remember his/her next phase of argument making it nearly impossible to execute their truth persuasively.
When challenged, non-truth tellers will revert to double-talking. They repeat in succession the same thing, but in different ways. It all amounts to a quick diversion in hopes that you will be confused in the process so they will have an opportunity to control the conversation. Don’t be fooled.
Stumbling blocks – When you are operating in truth, your demeanor, mannerisms and dialogue is solid and unwavering. Not much can shake the dynamics of the truth. Painfully, I witnessed Carlos Allen stumbling over simple words that, if operating in the truth, would have been effortless to communicate. A truth soldier will be ready in and out of season. It is hard to discount the stability of the truth. A non-truth teller will develop a pattern of verbal stumbling blocks. This will lead to increased frustration and eventually a disconnect from the conversation in order to save face.
What you talking ‘bout Willis? – Where is Gary Coleman when you need him? Come on Carlos! Why would I believe that President Obama officially invited you to the State Dinner? If a scenario raises eyebrows then it may be toppled over by the leaning tower of lies. In my opinion, it is not remotely plausible that Barack Obama would be in personal or political company with Carlos Allen. I don’t envision Allen and Obama having a common interest enough to inspire the President to invite him for a sit down. Do you even know the President Carlos? What is his phone number? When did he befriend you? How long have you known him? Are you on his Christmas card list? If you knew him like that then why didn’t he come to your rescue? These would be the questions I would have asked as the interviewer. Robin Roberts did a stellar job in maintaining professional journalism. I, however, am not a journalist and do not have to respect the integrity of fair and balanced reporting.
It is clear that arrogance and entitlement played a part in the series of lies that Carlos Allen told. It is a challenge to convince others that you are telling the truth when you first have not convinced yourself. One should never negotiate the terms of their integrity. No matter how enticing the offer, you will always walk away with less than what you came with.
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